Thursday, May 24, 2012

Be Available

The other day I was listening to the talk radio station while driving in the car.  A guy quoted a mom who was giving advice on being a mother.  She said, "you don't have to be perfect, you just have to be available."  I am of the frame of mind that being a mother is the single most important job in the whole world.  This places a lot of pressure and responsibility on me and other mother's.  As I have just over 2 year's experience now of being the mother of my little boy I am the first to realize that I am not perfect.  With that knowledge I need to focus on the second part of the advice, to be available.

Being available will translate differently for everyone and it will change as we change and as our children change.  As the mother of a 2 year old boy being available means giving comfort when he comes in from outside crying because he scratched himself.  With a little reassurance from me that he's okay he's quickly ready to play outside again.  Sometimes it means reading the same book a few times over until he's ready to move on to something else.  Sometimes it means stopping to pray when he's upset instead of me getting upset too.  Other times it means letting him "help" me do housework or make a meal when  I could get it done much faster by myself.  Singing an extra song at nap or bedtime may be all he needs to sleep soundly too.  I could go on and on and maybe I should just to remind myself that all of the instances described are usually more important than anything else.

I recognize that my boy will grow and may not need me in the same way as he did when he was two, but he will need me in different ways.  The key is to remind myself over and over that I am blessed with the sacred and holy calling of being a mother and to regularly ask myself how I am doing at being available to the needs of my child.  I am grateful to have amazing examples before me from my mom, mom-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, friends, and others of what it means to be available.

Remember all you moms out there, and this includes basically every woman out there who has an influence on children, that being a mom is noble, holy, wonderful, hard, but oh so rewarding.

1 comment:

The J's said...

It was perfect timing, of you to write this today... I am feeling particularly overwhelmed with the amount of Doctor appts we've had this month, resulting in piles of laudry, sinks full of dishes. But you have brought me back to the reality of what is important.... Thank you for sharing!